10 Tips for a Successful Shidduch
A practical guide based on Torah sources
1. Look with a kind eye. Do not seek perfection where you should be looking for character and values.
2. Tell your circle you are dating. One conversation can open the right door.
3. Prepare a clear profile. A short and honest summary makes the shadchan’s work easier.
4. Stay focused on what matters. Do not let secondary details eclipse the essence of a person.
5. Respond quickly. Prompt feedback shows seriousness.
6. Listen to mentors. From the outside, situations are often clearer.
7. Do not turn due diligence into investigation. What is needed is maturity, not suspicion.
8. Talk about values. Not only hobbies, but the home you hope to build.
9. Do not be overly picky. If the essentials are there, secondary things should not ruin everything.
10. Keep your joy. A calm and joyful person inspires trust and warmth.
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