Why Finding a Spouse Is Like Searching for a Lost Item
Talmudic wisdom on why you cannot just wait
The Sages of the Talmud (Kiddushin 2b) use a remarkable metaphor: a person seeking a spouse is like someone searching for a precious lost item.
The Lubavitcher Rebbe explained that when something valuable is lost, the owner does not sit at home and wait for a miracle. He goes out and searches. So too in shidduchim: one should not simply wait for things to happen on their own.
What does this mean in practice?
Reach out to friends, relatives, and mentors to suggest matches.
Do not postpone dating while waiting for a “perfect moment.”
Remember that building a family affects a person’s entire avodah (Igros Kodesh, vol. 15, p. 264).
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