Halacha and Responsibility in Shidduchim | GetAShidduch
Torah laws of shidduchim: shadchan responsibilities, investigation rules, lashon hara, tzniut, and dating ethics.
21 articles
The Shadow of Dor Yeshorim: Genetic Testing, the Fear of Rejection, and Medical Ethics in the Shidduch
When science and ancient social mechanisms collide with the modern idea of romantic love, who wins?
"Algorithm vs. intuition": can artificial intelligence replace a good shadchan’s instinct?
98% compatibility on paper means nothing if there is no spark and no warmth when you finally meet.
Shidduch Genetics: When Silence Becomes a Halachic Violation
When withholding serious information can no longer be defended as sensitivity
Paying the Shadchan: Charity or a Sacred Obligation?
Why shadchanus gelt should not be treated as a voluntary tip
Which Questionnaire Questions Help a Shadchan Most?
Which parts of a questionnaire actually help produce meaningful matches
Genetics and the Heart: Why Dor Yeshorim Should Happen Before the First Date
Why early screening protects the heart, privacy, and the next generation
Laws of Speech: When Halacha Requires You to Say Something Negative
How to share difficult information for constructive purpose without turning speech destructive
Mesarev Get: Spiritual Blackmail and Its Consequences
Why refusing to give a get is not a “private family dispute,” but a grave form of abuse and a red flag for future shidduchim
5 Golden Rules of Toeles: When Lashon Hara Becomes an Obligation
Five conditions that turn difficult speech in shidduchim into help rather than sin
Marriage and Kohanim: Special Laws of Holy Service
Why for kohanim, halachic eligibility must be checked before emotions deepen
A Shadchan’s Handbook: Etiquette, Shadchanus, and Difficult Cases
A concise practical handbook for new and younger shadchanim
The First Call Trap: Why Direct Contact Before the Date Can Kill a Shidduch
When direct contact helps and when it removes the shadchan’s protection and harms the process too early
The Art of Interviewing: What Profiles Do Not Tell You
How a shadchan can see the person behind the paper and not confuse polish with middos
Laws of Speech: When Silence About Illness Becomes a Crime
What must be disclosed before anyone asks, what may stay private, and when concealment turns a shidduch into a mistaken transaction
When Two Minuses Do Not Make a Plus: A Medical Shidduch FAQ
Practical answers about genetics, medication, confidentiality, and the right timing of disclosure
Cold Feet Syndrome: When a Shadchan Must Become the Alarm Clock
What to do when a shidduch stalls not because of incompatibility, but because of fear of the final decision
Special Categories: Shidduchim for Second Marriages, Widows, and Kohanim
A concise guide for the shadchan when the standard template no longer fits
A Rabbi in the Profile: Why a Shadchan Needs Halachic Backing
Why a rabbinic reference adds trust, clarity, and security for everyone involved
The Power of Specialization: Why It Is Better to Serve a Niche Well
How clearly naming your audience helps a shadchan work more deeply and effectively
Shadchanus Gelt: Financial Clarity as Protection for Your Mazal
Why clarity about payment is better than discomfort, ambiguity, and resentment at the finish line
Shemiras Halashon: Your Responsibility for Every Word
Why a shadchan must be a filter rather than a transmitter of every negative detail
