Halacha and Responsibility in Shidduchim | GetAShidduch
Torah laws of shidduchim: shadchan responsibilities, investigation rules, lashon hara, tzniut, and dating ethics.
19 articles
Shidduch Genetics: When Silence Becomes a Halachic Violation
When withholding serious information can no longer be defended as sensitivity
Paying the Shadchan: Charity or a Sacred Obligation?
Why shadchanus gelt should not be treated as a voluntary tip
Which Questionnaire Questions Help a Shadchan Most?
Which parts of a questionnaire actually help produce meaningful matches
Genetics and the Heart: Why Dor Yeshorim Should Happen Before the First Date
Why early screening protects the heart, privacy, and the next generation
Laws of Speech: When Halacha Requires You to Say Something Negative
How to share difficult information for constructive purpose without turning speech destructive
Mesarev Get: Spiritual Blackmail and Its Consequences
Why refusing to give a get is not a “private family dispute,” but a grave form of abuse and a red flag for future shidduchim
5 Golden Rules of Toeles: When Lashon Hara Becomes an Obligation
Five conditions that turn difficult speech in shidduchim into help rather than sin
Marriage and Kohanim: Special Laws of Holy Service
Why for kohanim, halachic eligibility must be checked before emotions deepen
A Shadchan’s Handbook: Etiquette, Shadchanus, and Difficult Cases
A concise practical handbook for new and younger shadchanim
The First Call Trap: Why Direct Contact Before the Date Can Kill a Shidduch
When direct contact helps and when it removes the shadchan’s protection and harms the process too early
The Art of Interviewing: What Profiles Do Not Tell You
How a shadchan can see the person behind the paper and not confuse polish with middos
Laws of Speech: When Silence About Illness Becomes a Crime
What must be disclosed before anyone asks, what may stay private, and when concealment turns a shidduch into a mistaken transaction
When Two Minuses Do Not Make a Plus: A Medical Shidduch FAQ
Practical answers about genetics, medication, confidentiality, and the right timing of disclosure
Cold Feet Syndrome: When a Shadchan Must Become the Alarm Clock
What to do when a shidduch stalls not because of incompatibility, but because of fear of the final decision
Special Categories: Shidduchim for Second Marriages, Widows, and Kohanim
A concise guide for the shadchan when the standard template no longer fits
A Rabbi in the Profile: Why a Shadchan Needs Halachic Backing
Why a rabbinic reference adds trust, clarity, and security for everyone involved
The Power of Specialization: Why It Is Better to Serve a Niche Well
How clearly naming your audience helps a shadchan work more deeply and effectively
Shadchanus Gelt: Financial Clarity as Protection for Your Mazal
Why clarity about payment is better than discomfort, ambiguity, and resentment at the finish line
Shemiras Halashon: Your Responsibility for Every Word
Why a shadchan must be a filter rather than a transmitter of every negative detail
