How to Fill Out a Shidduch Profile Correctly
A strong and weak example under each field so it is clear what helps a shadchan and what gets in the way
A strong profile is usually built not on beautiful wording, but on clarity. Below is a practical way to walk through the form field by field and immediately see the difference between a living profile and a weak one.
1. Name
Strong: Avraham Yitzchak (Alex) Levi.
Weak: A. L., full name later.
Why it matters: openness calms the process from the very first line.
2. Date of birth
Strong: September 15, 1995.
Weak: around 30.
Why it matters: precision in basic facts strengthens trust immediately.
3. Height
Strong: 182 cm.
Weak: normal.
Why it matters: simple clarity prevents unnecessary surprises.
4. Place of residence
Strong: Jerusalem, willing to relocate for the right match.
Weak: center.
Why it matters: a good answer shows both real life and flexibility.
5. Family background
Strong: Baal teshuva for 8 years, secular family, warm and respectful relationships.
Weak: regular family, hard to explain.
Why it matters: brief honesty is calmer than vagueness.
6. Study and work
Strong: master’s in psychology, three years of serious yeshiva study, combines work with morning seder, works in HR.
Weak: studied somewhere, working now, will explain later.
Why it matters: a shadchan needs life direction, not only activity.
7. About me
Strong: friends describe me as calm, thoughtful, and reliable; honesty, chesed, and compromise matter to me.
Weak: normal guy, love life.
Why it matters: this is where middos begin to appear.
8. Whom I am seeking
Strong: looking for a bas Yisrael for whom Torah is a life compass, with kindness, humor, and shared goals for the home.
Weak: pretty, slim, no problems.
Why it matters: a good answer describes a home, not a shopping list.
9. References
Strong: rav, close friend, supervisor.
Weak: ask me directly.
Why it matters: references give support and safety, not unnecessary control.
Practical takeaway: a good profile does not need to be dazzling. It needs to be clear, warm, and verifiable so the shadchan can see a real person instead of fog.
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