A Spiritual First-Aid Kit: Tehillim and Resolutions That Help a Shidduch Move Forward

Many people ask: what can I do right now when it feels as though all natural means have already been exhausted? Chassidic teaching offers concrete spiritual channels for drawing blessing.

Practical recommendations

Psalm 20. The Rebbe advised men to read this psalm before sleep, especially focusing on the second verse and asking Hashem for help.

Daily tzedakah. Giving a few coins to charity each morning, except on Shabbat, creates a vessel for both material and personal blessing.

Checking tefillin and mezuzos. At times, an obstacle in material life can be linked to a problem in sacred parchments, and so they should be checked.

There are also additional segulos. In the Lithuanian world people often mention shiluach haken, asking a kohen to have you in mind during Birkat Kohanim, and taking on specific areas of Torah study as spiritual reinforcement.

Tehillim by the days of the month. This kind of reading connects a person to the collective prayer of the Jewish people and opens heavenly gates.

Yielding can itself open doors. Rav Shteinman said that when a person swallows pride and yields in an argument, that itself can open gates that had remained closed for a long time.

The main principle. The Rebbe emphasized that shidduch success often comes when a person stops revolving around the self and starts helping others. When you become an angel for someone else, Hashem sends an angel to you as well.